Hello! I’m Crystal. I conceived my daughter on my husband’s and my second cycle of trying, and we’ve been trying for our second for almost three years. I didn’t even know what secondary infertility was at first—but it’s real, and it can be incredibly isolating.
I started sharing my story because this is something people don’t really talk about: the quiet grief, the guilt of wanting more while loving what you already have, and the strange in-between space of parenting one child while hoping for another.
Here, I write about navigating secondary infertility while learning how to enjoy life, embrace motherhood as it is right now, and make peace with the uncertainty of what may or may not come next.
If you’re on this journey too—or if you’re simply looking for words that make you feel less alone—you can read my latest posts below.
Recent Posts
Why Being an Only Child Doesn’t Mean Being Lonely
A Common Comment About Only Children That Stuck With Me This past winter break, my little family and I took a trip to Disney World in Orlando, Florida with my parents-in-law. My daughter loves Disneyland (and so do I), so we were especially excited for this trip—particularly because I had never been to Disney World…
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The Weight Behind “When Are You Having Another?”
While Navigating Secondary Infertility When Family Asks, “When Are You Having Another?” About a year ago, my husband, our daughter, and I went to Hawaii over the summer with my in-laws (my husband’s parents). At the time, my daughter was four, and my sister-in-law—who didn’t come on the trip—was pregnant with her second child. Naturally,…
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How Secondary Infertility Changed My Relationship With My Daughter
Navigating secondary infertility for the past two—going on three—years unexpectedly changed my relationship with my daughter for the better. It didn’t just change how I felt about having another child; it changed how I showed up for the one I already had. Before Secondary Infertility: When Motherhood Felt Simpler For the first three years of…
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Find a little calm in the waiting
If you’re facing secondary infertility, these 5 free journal prompts can help bring a bit of calm and clarity to your journey.
You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone
I created a Secondary Infertility Support Ebook where I share more of my personal journey and the mindset shifts that have helped me cope.
Inside the ebook, I talk about:
• Gratitude during difficult seasons
• Living in the moment
• Letting go of comparison
• Taking care of your physical health
• Being mindful of what you consume